I’ve given this a lot of thought over the last few years. We lost our eldest child to cancer when he was 6 years old (months away from his 7th birthday). Kookie was 4 and Dookie was 18 months old. I guess you could say I was in a state of limbo as a mother. All of the rules had changed, the world had become unrecognisable to me in the same way as a cheating husband would appear to his wife. I had been cheated out of my little boy, and so had the people that I loved the most.
Life happens and all you really have is what you can see and feel…..right now. With that emphasis, here are some of my favourite things about being mum to KookieDookie.
I love the way that they argue. Sometimes I let the back and forth bickering go on a few minutes longer because I love to hear them.
I really like drying their faces after a wash. To be able to feel the contours of their face, brush across their eyebrows and see their bright and beautiful, sparkling eyes close up.
When they call me Mummy. There is nothing more recognisable than being called for by that name. It is the sweetest sound and I am so glad that I get to hear it every single day.
I love knowing that they have their own lives separate from me. I love being a spectator. I get to watch as they take their first steps towards new adventures with each passing school year. I get to watch their friendships blossom and their brains grow.
I love that they look to me to make things better. Physical pain, emotional pain, just generally being tired, hungry or both. They know that I will fix it. I dread the time when I cannot.
I would feel honoured if you would share your favourite things about being a mum/dad. I would really love to read them!